The Secret to Understanding Women

Did the title scare you? What I’m about to share with you is quite a simple concept actually. The problem is, it needs to be understood and exercised by both men and women, simultaneously. I had been thinking about this earlier this year, it all clicked when I saw this Lady Gaga GIF. She said, “If you’re laying next to someone that really doesn’t make you feel like the goddess that you are, you need to rediscover what it is that you truly want and need.”

Doesn’t matter what context you take this in – in any relationship, whether romantic or just a hookup, the person you are with needs to make you feel like you are celestial, as you should be doing so with them as well. There is nothing sexier than someone who wants you just as much as you want them. There is nothing more powerful than intimacy, be conscious of who you share that kind of energy with. It is completely valid and absolutely necessary to ask yourself which category your partner fits in: A) Are they reciprocating your celestial vibes? or B) Are they making you question the supreme being that you are, even for a split-second? With so many radiant souls in the Universe, what are you gaining from being with someone who can’t do A)?

In today’s society, where a 2am text saying “yo..” is considered the most romantic gesture, we are constantly living in the fear of labeling “what we are” too soon, blaming ourselves for “f-cking everything up,” and identifying every *heart eyed emoji* comment as a threat. Stop it. Stop asking yourself if you’re dating, talking or just hooking up (btw what is “talking” anyway, really?) Stop checking up on their social media trying to put the puzzle pieces together. Instead, try spending your time recognizing the energy you’re sharing. And where does that intuition ultimately stem from? Within.

Women, understand the power that you have. Do you think you’re a good human being? Do you understand how unique your beauty is? Do you feel like you deserve to be treated well? Well then, when your partner starts slipping, what are you doing doubting yourself? Once you’re conscious of your celestial vibes, you won’t see anyone as a threat and you’ll learn to recognize when someone’s intentions aren’t the same as yours. At that point, you’ll be able to cut ties with no hard feelings whatsoever. Accept when someone is on a different wavelength as you and move forward. Allow yourself to be open to new connections. Stop holding on to toxic vibes, there is nothing to decode or dwell on.

Men, understand that women aren’t complicated. What every woman wants is for their partner to make them feel special. Do you know how to do that? Just reciprocate that energy. It’s not weak to show interest, it’s weak to overlook the good woman laying next to you. You want her? Tell her. You don’t have to get married in a week, you just have to text her letting her know you were thinking about her. When a man is honest with his intentions and consistently boomeranging positive energy, his woman is at peace. What better equilibrium?

Everybody deserves to be at peace. Doesn’t matter what type of relationship you’re looking for, if you’re investing your time and sharing intimacy, you should be doing so with someone who values that. Mixed signals in the beginning equate a definite “no” for a future. It really, really is that simple.

xo, Has